Your Ego

Do you know a couple where one does all of the talking and the other one just sits quietly? Initially, the “talker” may seem very smart, confident and like an all around great guy until you really start to listen. He sounds like he is just talking to hear himself speak. He grabs attention because he is loud. He spouts the latest news headlines and repeats popular news pundits as if those thoughts are his own.

Then you speak to the “quiet” one. The quiet one doesn’t garner a lot of attention by virtue of being quiet, but when you listen to her speak you are amazed by the wisdom that comes forth. The quiet one is very introspective, knowledgeable about many topics and has an opinion of her own. She is thoughtful, kind and loving.

ID-10088140Think of the “talker” as your ego and the “quiet one” as your spirit. Your ego is very loud, commands all of the attention and is very narcissistic. Ego thrives on attention and has a “what’s in it for me” mentality. Ego will help you, but only if there is something in it for them. Your spirit is quiet and subtle, waiting patiently for ego to shut up and listen. If you silence your ego for awhile, you will be surprised at the wisdom that your spirit speaks. While your ego may fool you into thinking it has your best interest at heart, it can be selfish. Your spirit on the other hand always has your best interest at heart without thought of wanting something in return. Your spirit knows that by helping others, you get rewarded in the end.

While our egos are a good thing to help us relate to the world we live in, we often let our ego take over our spirit and do all of the talking. Let’s flip flop that and have spirit be our representative instead of ego. Try to practice being consciously aware of who’s doing the talking for you. Is it your ego or your spirit?

-CB

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1-Month Progress Update

30-DAY-GOALS1-1024x976It’s been one month since I started this journey and it’s been eye opening. For starters, today — my one month mark — I got a freelance writing gig as an Atlanta Culinary Travel writer. As you know, this combines my love of food and love of travel. I’m already a travel agent so this is a nice complement. I’m so excited and happy about this. This is a great example of setting forth a vision and making strides to get there. When I started this, I wasn’t sure where I wanted to end up but I knew my passion areas. Through this blog, I figure that I’ll be able to define my path along the way. This writing gig is a great first step!

I’ve learned so much about myself in one month, which is priceless. I could have paid a life coach to help me get to these insights about myself, but because I am on a mission to follow my passions this has led me to do some deep soul searching for free. Between writing in this blog almost daily, journaling, and meditating, I have realized things about myself that I need to change if I am to move forward successfully. I can’t continue to do the same things expecting different results. We all know that is the definition of insanity. But, I didn’t know I was insane. I thought it was everyone else.

We all know someone who visibly needs to change their ways because everyone knows about their issues. It’s easy to  spot that person and judge them based on their actions. I’m sure I was right there judging with everyone else.  It’s especially easy to do this with celebrities. I knew I wasn’t perfect, but I also knew that I didn’t have their issues. At the same time, I also knew I wasn’t where I wanted to be in life. I knew that I was meant for more. To someone from the outside looking in, it may seem like I have it all but, I wasn’t being true to myself. Being truthful about who we are, what we expect out of life and then taking the action to get there is imperative to living a happy life.

I was listening to some motivational speaker (and I apologize that I don’t remember which one because I listen to A LOT), and they interviewed 100 residents at a nursing home and asked them what was their biggest regret. 100% of them said that they wished they took more chances and lived the life they wanted instead of doing what others expected of them. That hit me like a ton of bricks! I’ve lived my whole life based on other people’s expectations and what I felt like I had to present to the world. But no more! From now on it’s living on my own terms. When I live in my truth, only then will true success come my way.

I can’t wait to post my 3 month update as I know that even more than I could possibly imagine will come my way. LOOK OUT LIFE, HERE I COME!

-CB

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Success

ID-1005481What do you define as success? A lot of people would probably say that having a lot of money is success. I beg to differ. I would say that money is a means to an end. Money can help make your life comfortable and allow you to do more in the world. But even if you don’t have money, success can be having a loving significant other, child(ren), and a comfortable home. I am very successful in that regard and I am very grateful for it because I know there are plenty of people that don’t have it and long for it. But, I want more out of life. I want what I have and then some.

How many of you truly believe that you can manifest the life you want? I bet a lot of you believe it, but don’t really think it can happen to you. Why? Because if you truly believed it you would be doing something about it. I was that person too. I’ve always had big dreams and this life of doing everything I love, but the only problem was that my 9-5 got in the way. How am I supposed to do everything that I want to do when I have to go into a cubicle 5 days out of 7? And sometimes I even had to work after 5pm and weekends! This was not what I signed up for. I thought about how some people work for 50 years and retire and only then can they enjoy life. I’m not knocking what anybody else is doing, but that is not for me.

My successful life is owning several businesses so that I can have multiple streams of income, a home in St. Thomas, a cabin in the Smoky Mountains, being able to shop & dine  without worry of a budget, being able to travel at a whim, having the time to spend with my children whenever, a big beautiful home that has everything I need in it (cooks gourmet kitchen with a salad bar, gym, meditation/massage room, theater room, library, office, play room, etc.), and having like-minded, wealthy, successful friends. Among my businesses would be a non-profit that helps underprivileged children and allows them to travel, see the world, and expand their mind. I would also give back to my community and city and to others that need help. To whom much is given, much is required. That is my desire and that is my goal which I will attain.

How many are you with me? What do you consider success?

-CB

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FEAR

I am living a fearless life! One thing I am learning is that fear is not real. It is a figment of your imagination. True, it may seem real.  But, to a paranoid schizophrenic, all of those people talking to him are real. To a 3 year old who is scared of the monster under the bed, it seems real.  For the woman who is constantly complaining of being broke, and thereby is always broke, that is real for her. The point is that we shape our own realities. Would you want your reality to be full of fear or bliss? Well, I opt for bliss!

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One of the You Tube channels I follow is Shameless Maya. (I love her energy and passion!) Her whole purpose is shamelessly (or fearlessly) putting herself out there to combat her insecurities. This is from her About page: What would happen if I shamelessly promoted myself for 365 days?. Go watch my first video. It came about from my insecurities of putting myself out there. I find self-promotion cheesy, corny, and tacky but I’m noticing a LOT of people promoting themselves, celebrating their gifts and here I am hiding in my turtle shell. So before I say farewell to this world, I’d like to annihilate this mental “block” and celebrate the beauty of life with my many hidden gifts and talents, meet some new like-minded people and to do that i must #BESHAMELESS. I’m excited to find out where this journey will take me.

Here is a video where she talks about fear and questions why you are afraid. What are you afraid of?

-CB

My Travels

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I just decided to post today about some of my trips that I’ve taken over my lifetime. I LOVE TRAVELING! It is my goal to one day start a non-profit foundation that will take underprivileged children on trips to expose them to the world. When people are exposed to other cultures, their mind is expanded. This applies to not only children, but adults as well. You don’t even have to travel the world for this exposure. There are vastly different ways of living in the United States alone.

Forefront: Yerba Buena Island (YBI), to the right attached to it is Treasure Island. In the far left at top is San Francisco. To the far right at the top is the Golden Gate Bridge and the small island in the middle of the water is Alcatraz.

Forefront: Yerba Buena Island (YBI), to the right attached to it is Treasure Island. In the far left at top is San Francisco. To the far right at the top is the Golden Gate Bridge and the small island in the middle of the water is Alcatraz.

My dad was in the navy so I’ve been traveling since I was 4 years old. Home is Atlanta, GA, but we were mostly on the West Coast throughout my childhood. California is a world away from Georgia, in terms of people and cultures, and Washington State is different from both of them. We lived in San Diego, CA; Concord, CA; and Yerba Buena Island which is connected to Treasure Island.  This is the real Treasure Island in the San Francisco Bay — that was cool because our home was perched high on the island so we had the perfect view of the Oakland Bay Bridge, Golden Gate Bridge, Alcatraz and San Francisco.

We also lived in Bremerton, Washington which is right across the water from Seattle. We would ride the  ferry to Seattle on occasions. We were also stationed in Athens, GA. Right after my parents got divorced my dad got stationed in Japan. I hate that I missed that experience. I had a friend who seemed to be stationed everywhere we went and she went to Japan. I remember her coming back with Hello Kitty and this was back in the late 70’s/early 80’s. I see Kitty came back with a vengeance. Trends are funny like that, I guess.

As an adult, I’ve been to the following:

Within the U.S.

California: Los Angeles
Texas: Houston
Louisiana: New Orleans
Nevada: Las Vegas
Illinois: Chicago
Michigan: Detroit
Ohio: Akron, Canton
New York: New York City
Pennsylvania: Philadelphia
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Virginia: Norfolk, Va Beach
South Carolina: Charleston, Columbia, Orangeburg,  Hilton Head, Myrtle Beach
Georgia: Savannah, N. Ga. Mountains (Smoky Mountains)
Tennessee: Gatlinburg, Pigeon Forge, Memphis, Nashville
Florida: Destin, Ft. Myers, Miami, Ft. Lauderdale, Jacksonville, Naples, Orlando, Port Canaveral, and Key West.

Outside of the U.S.

Puerto Rico
Bahamas
Barbados
Antigua
St. Thomas
St. John
St. Lucia
St. Kitts
St. Maarten/St. Martin
Jamaica
Mexico
Cayman Islands
Aruba
Curacao
London
Barcelona
Madrid
Malaga
Morocco
Amsterdam

My favorite of all of the places would be Amsterdam and St. Thomas. Amsterdam was nothing that I imagined. We all know about the legal marijuana in Amsterdam and coming from the United States, where ever there are “drugs” there is crime and seediness. Well, that was so far from the truth it wasn’t even funny. (This is exactly what I mean about expanding your mind through travel). The food was very good and multicultural, everyone had a cool, laid back attitude and even the Red Light district was harmless. I would say it was equivalent to an upscale area in a major city in the U.S. There was low crime, plenty of amenities and lots to do. It’s also the home of Heineken, Haagen Dazs, and Tulips. My other favorite place to visit is St. Thomas. They have shopping, food, activities, beaches, everything.

I’ve been blessed to have been able to do as much traveling as I have. I have so many more places that I will get to. My dream trip is a culinary tour in Italy. They have culinary trips where you can learn how to make Italian dishes on the countryside in Tuscany, as an example. This is awesome. I can see myself on the hills in Tuscany at a villa learning how to cook using the finest olive oil and freshly made tomato sauce and other fresh produce from local gardeners while drinking the wine from the local vineyards.

I still need to visit Boston, Paris, Cannes, Venice, Rome, Sicily, Greece, Belgium, Germany, Switzerland, Rio, Argentina, S. Africa, Ghana, Kenya, Egypt, Australia, Japan, China, Tahiti, India, Galapagos Islands, Hawaii, Alaska, Canada and even Russia. I want to see it ALL. I love it, I love it, I love it!

Where do you want to visit and what has been was your favorite trip so far?

-CB

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