Do you realize the power your mind has over your body? I’m talking about real physical manifestations. As you probably know by now, I’m an optimistic person. I have on rose-colored glasses and my glass is always half full. I just never saw the point in being negative. It’s tiring and non-productive and it really weighs me down. I mean I literally feel heavier. I bet if a scientific study were done, negative people would probably weigh more collectively as a group than positive people.
Anyhoo…there are countless stories of people who have thought so strongly about something that their body manifests their thoughts. Why do we say “I feel angry” or “I feel sad”? Because your body is reacting to your thoughts. Your emotions are a manifestation of your thoughts to your body. If you are scared, how does your body feel? If you are happy, how does your body feel? If you are nervous, how does your body feel? If you are anxious, how does your body feel? Well, the same holds true with our negative or positive attitudes.
Picture the person who is always complaining. I know you know someone. If you don’t, it might be you! How do you feel when you are around them? Sad? Tired? Weighed down? You feel that way because their negative energy is sucking up all of your positive energy. If this were Harry Potter, those people would be Dementors. For those of you not familiar, Dementors feed on human emotions. They “…drain peace, hope, and happiness out of the air around them…Even before a Dementor is seen, its presence is obvious; they are surrounded by an unnatural darkness and terrible icy cold…They drain a wizard of his powers if left with them too long.”(1) Sound familiar? The spell to cast away a Dementor is the Patronus Charm. This spell is not easy. It takes a lot out of the wizard who is casting the spell. The phrase to speak while aiming your wand at the Dementor is “Expecto Patronum”. Expecto is Latin meaning “to expel from the chest, i.e., to send forth from one’s self.”(2) Casting the spell “conjures a Patronus, a silvery phantom shape… which is the embodiment of the positive thoughts of the caster. A Patronus will drive away Dementors.”(3) Go back and re-read that. How deep is that? In order to get rid of the Dementor, the wizard or witch has to dig deep from within themselves and send out positive thoughts or love.
Even though we don’t live in Hogwarts, we do have magical wands of our own to get rid of these people. Are you ready for the magic spell? It is to stay positive! Over time, those negative people won’t come around you because you won’t feed into their negativity. They won’t have anyone to commiserate with. Remember the saying “misery loves company”? There is a reason for that. So, even if this Dementor you know is a close friend or family member, for your own health start taking baby steps to distance yourself from them. Remember, it’s for your own health!