Do you set goals for yourself only to find yourself doing something that prevents you from reaching them? Do you wonder why you’re not one of those lucky people that become successful? You may be sabotaging your own success. Here are five ways you can end self-sabotage once and for all.
- Stop with the fear. All of us want to be successful, but how many of us are really prepared for it? We all think we would be, but something deep down inside may be telling you that you aren’t ready, which is why you subconsciously sabotage your chances at being successful. You may be fearful of the unknown. In reality, it is easier to go with what you know even if what you know isn’t all that great. At least you know how to act and respond while in that situation. But, you must get beyond that fearful thinking in order to be successful. What’s the worst that could happen? You get that much closer to your goal than where you were?
- Invest the proper time. Sometimes we set a goal without a plan to get there and think we’ll reach our goal miraculously without any effort. Or we procrastinate in doing what we need to do to meet these goals. Let’s be real. Meeting big goals and striving for success are not easy. If it were, everyone would be doing it. We see the end results of successful people’s hard work and think we can achieve that same success overnight. The reality is that it doesn’t happen overnight. Successful people worked very hard at their craft for years before you even heard about them. So in order for you to reach your goals you must also put in the work. Be patient.
- Get in control of your emotions. If you are trying to lose weight, then you can sabotage your weight loss goals with emotional eating. If you are trying to stay out of a bad relationship, you can sabotage that by going back to that person when you start to feel lonely. If you don’t feel that you have the strength right now to get beyond whatever emotion you are feeling that is sabotaging your success, then find an alternative solution. If you are trying to lose weight, don’t keep junk food in the house. And instead of getting in your car and driving to the nearest fast food place, get in your car and drive to a park, put on your favorite music and headphones and walk around the track. Exercise will do wonders for your state of mind. If you are feeling lonely and want to go back to that person you shouldn’t be with, call a trusted friend and talk to them. Go to the movies with a friend or even by yourself or take a walk to clear your head. Just do something to stay busy so that you aren’t sitting around feeling sorry for yourself on the verge of making bad life choices.
- Understand your purpose. We are all put on this earth to do something great. You may go through the majority of your life not even understanding what yours is. But, by virtue of you reading this blog I’m sure you are starting to have an inkling that there must be something more to life. If you don’t understand that your job in this world is to contribute your unique talents then you may not feel that you are worthy to achieve success. This is something that you just have to trust me on. You are worthy and you are put here for a specific purpose. Figuring it out can come later, but just know that you have a purpose and you are worthy of success.
- Let go of control. Sometimes our need to try to control everything just puts us in our own way. While it is important to make a plan for success (see #2), we have to learn to also go with the flow. Have your plan in place, but if something goes awry then don’t just bail. You’ll need to alter your plan. The true path to success is never linear. It is crooked, zig-zagged, and looped. The key is to stay on it, no matter how trying it gets and try not to control it, but ride it.